Knowing Your Why Gives You R and R

May 02, 2024

"Our why helps us understand why we do what we do” and “how much more we can achieve if we remind ourselves to start everything we do by first asking why.”

                                                                                                                                    --Simon Sinek

When you get this email, I'll be doing a workshop to give an organization's team some R and R. Yes, the boss wanted to gift her staff with a workshop that would give them Rest and Relaxation. 

As I wrote this, I realized that I'll be sharing the tools that I have learned to get through tough times. Living in today's world can be tough. This is a secular organization so I left the "God" stuff out, but the tools work regardless. 

One of these tools is knowing our why. 
 Our “why” is the underlying reason or foundation for our behind your actions, decisions, and goals. It’s the deep-rooted motivation that fuels our passion and gives meaning to our lives.

Knowing why we do what we do is like having a treasure map for our lives. It helps us stay on track, even when the path gets tough. When we know our why, we can make better decisions, set goals, and live a more fulfilling life.

When we have a written “why”, we can turn to that in times that are tough. It will inspire us in the hard times.  


Rick Warren quotes, “Humans were made to live with meaning. Without purpose, life is meaningless. A meaningless life is a life without hope or significance…purpose gives meaning. Meaning gives hope and significance.” 


We  have special and unique talents and gifts to impact the world in our way. We were created for a purpose, a "why." We have to look within to find that "why" and it is usually hooked to your strengths and the things that give you joy.

Here are some questions to help you find your "why:''

1.        Why do you work? Yes, I understand that it pays the bills. What else is the money for? 
2.        Why do you work where you work? What is it about the work that satisfies you.
3.        What gives you joy? What do you day dream about?
4.        What does your soul crave?

What does knowing your why have to do with R and R? 

There are times in my life when I have to go back to "oh yeah, I'm doing this because my purpose is to inspire individuals to bring out their best...and then some."  I have to remember that not everyone wants to take that trip. Many choose comfort over growth and that's okay.  Sometimes that's hard for me.

What's really hard is to look at our world today and see the craziness. Most of what's happening is out of my control. And you know how I feel about that:) 

Instead of focusing on today's world, I go back to how it feels when those I coach or train experience huge wins and growth (my why). When their limiting belief are crushed, my heart warms, the anxiety leaves, my shoulders relax...it's like I've gone to the beach for a moment...and you know how that feels.

Where our focus goes, there our energy flows. I would rather focus on the good that I can do through my "why" than focus on the craziness. 

Try it. Go back to your why when you feel the negativity. Let me know how it works for you. 

If you need help finding your why, reach on out to me. I'd love to chat.